This Impossible Day

Give me this fleeting day.
Walk by my side; I will be still.
Hold my hand; I will hope.
Today, this fleeting day belongs to us.

Awake with me in the dawn.
Be my side as the night thoughts cling to me.
Share with me your dreams.
And in this day we will embrace.

Make my dreams come closer.
Draw me into your life today.
Show me what I cannot see,
And in this fragile day, we will live.

One day?
Will my restless yearning cease?
Will I find enough in one day?
Yes, there is an eternity in a day with you.

This is the day the Lord has made.
One fertile day spent together.
Give me one day,
Tomorrow grows from the seeds of this day.

Can you give me this impossible day?
Can you see this unimaginable moment through my eyes?
Then walk with me slowly,
Rest in this day with me; it is ours to share.

James P Raun

 

Reflections

Your wedding day is hectic, a swirl of activity. Enchanting, and wonderful people you love dearly hugging and wishing both of you the best. You are now past that magic time. The glow is dimming. Still, you enjoy each day you have with each other. Your first baby is here! Congratulations! You’re talking about more children, buying a house, moving up in your career.

A once doable scheduling is getting crowded. You need to schedule a date night. Time for friends, you haven’t seen your parents lately. Where has all the time gone?

Time.

The point of ‘This Impossible Day’ is the value we place on being with each other, how much do we want to spend time together. There is never going to be enough time for what is important: your relationship. Having enough time is an attitude of being present with each other. Being interested in what the other is talking about even when it is routine:

‘Pick up milk at the store!’.

{“Today, this fleeting day, belongs to us.”}

‘Ok!’ ‘She is rushed today. I wonder why? Oh, I forgot…’

‘Hi.’

‘What’s up?’ ‘I called to wish you well at work today; I know it’s a big day for you.’

[He remembered. He shared this day with me]

“Show me what I cannot see,” when we are present with our spouse, we see the world through their eyes. Being present is more than listening to them. Being present is understanding the depth of what this means to them. How long they have felt this. Why it is a dream, they hold so secretly but want to share with you. Yes, I give up what I am thinking about to take in what my spouse is saying. In this I am saying to them: you are the most important person in my life right now. Cell is off. iPad is out of sight. TV is off. I want to take in what you are saying. Show me what I cannot see. Let me see your dreams through your eyes.

Communication stands out as one of the persistent problem people face in their marriages. It is my observation that how important the spouse is to you is where the breakdown occurs.

One day?

Will my restless yearning cease?

Will I find enough in one day?

Yes, there is an eternity in a day with you.

Rebuilding our marriage starts with finding out how important we are to each other. The neglected human need to be valued, to be seen as special lies at the heart of crumbling marriages.